Three traps that prevent finding love have been identified

Psychologist revealed three mental traps blocking the path to love and intimacy

Well-known psychologist Mark Travers in his column for Forbes shared an important observation about three common mental attitudes that imperceptibly isolate people from love and close relationships. Many mistakenly accept these psychological "traps" as ways of self-protection, but in reality, they only exacerbate feelings of loneliness.

1. Hyper-independence instead of healthy boundaries

The constant desire to cope with everything on your own and categorical refusal of help from others may seem like a manifestation of strength of character, but in fact, it is often a defensive reaction to experienced disappointments. Travers notes that such a behavioral model inevitably leads to chronic loneliness, even if it is initially perceived as long-awaited freedom.

2. Withdrawal at the slightest discomfort

The policy of "zero tolerance" for others' mistakes and imperfections becomes a serious obstacle to forming strong emotional connections. Constant readiness to break off relationships at the first signs of discomfort does not allow for building truly trusting relationships with other people.

3. Using boundaries for avoidance rather than conscious choice

Many people mistakenly equate self-giving with compliance. When helping others turns into a burdensome obligation instead of a free choice, it inevitably leads to emotional burnout. The psychologist particularly emphasizes the importance of being able to distinguish between situations requiring generosity and moments when it is necessary to conserve one's own resources.

The specialist claims that the ability to build flexible psychological boundaries and consciously interact with others not only protects against emotional exhaustion but also allows one to remain open to real love and intimacy.